If you talk to someone who’s been to prison for a length of time, they’ll tell you the most grueling punishment you can give an inmate is solitary confinement. You can take away all their other privileges. Tv time. Their ability to use a computer. Deny them phone privileges for a month. Eventually they will adjust and learn to adapt and live without it until the punishment is lifted.

You can get use to not watching television. I know because I’ve done it. Some Families don’t even have televisions. No television. No internet, and they can live a sane and healthy life. Most of the things we deem as necessities today, are just luxuries, or better yet distractions! We think we need them because we’ve become dependent on them. Especially our phones. I used to know everyone’s phone number in my phonebook by memory.

Now I can’t remember anyone’s number in my contacts list without my smartphone.  But before the smartphone, you had to dial the number of the person you wish to call yourself. Dialing it yourself would have you commit it to memory. Now I call friends, family members, a business many times over and don’t know the number(s) by memory.

Some of us if we lost our smartphone, we wouldn’t be able to remember any numbers in our contacts list except 911. But that isn’t the worst thing that could happen to someone. The worst thing that can happen to someone is to cut them off from all human contact. It’s the worst punishment you can give to a person who’s an inmate in prison. Solitary confinement means no human interaction or contact for months. It’s inhumane to do that to someone for such a long time.

It causes people to literally lose their sense of reality. No matter how strong you are, being cut off from all human contact long enough it will break you. And it’s because God did not create us to be by ourselves. We can’t undo what God has done and expect to live long healthy lives.

God knew this when he created Adam. Adam wasn’t alone, he had God. He had a bunch of animals and insects to name.  He was a busy man.  He was helping God organize the Earth. But Adam didn’t have an equal. He didn’t have anyone who looked like him that was his opposite. All the animals had someone opposite of themselves.. Male and Female. 

But there was no one to compliment Adam. He had no natural equal. He was the only Human being in the garden.

God said in Genesis 2:18 ” It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him”. So there was a purpose for God to create Eve.  It is not good for the man to be alone why? Because Man needed a helpmeet. God created and designed Adam to be a social creature.

One reason why the Covid illness has been so damaging, is because it has limited people’s ability to be around other people. God created us to have relationships. Close intimate relationships with one another. Gods desire is not for you to have a close intimate relationship with him and have no natural friends. “Whenever two or three are gathered in my name, I am there in the midst” Matthew 18:20.

This could not happen if you had no personal relationship(s) with other people. That was Adam before God created Eve. God created her to function as Adam’s helpmeet. God’s created being Eve addressed many needs that Adam would soon need.

It solved the intimacy issue Adam would have faced. Adam now had a friend and a companion. Someone he could be in a relationship with. Someone he could fellowship with. Without the creation of Eve Adam would not be able to carry out the Lord’s will in Genesis 1:28 “God blessed them, and God said Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it“.  Eve was created to help populate the Earth with God’s people. Adam could not have accomplished this on his own.

God created Adam and Eve to be dependent upon one another in order to fulfill God’s will. Today the Earth is greatly populated, so that’s no longer a need when Men and Women decide to join together in marriage. We can’t be so spiritual that we disregard common sense. China is extremely over populated. There’s more people than there are resources.

It would be foolish if all the Men and Women in that environment decided they would marry and continue to bring forth as many kids as possible due to Genesis 1:28.  God also commanded them to be fruitful and to subdue the Earth. 

To control the environment, tend to it and take care of it.  They way God commanded Adam and Eve to take care of the Garden. Man has been failing at this instruction from God since Genesis. You cannot subdue the Earth while also disobeying God in the process. It’s not possible. 

The whole act of disobedience is to defy God’s order. Because we believe our way to be more suitable.   You can definitely engage in activity while disobeying God. But it won’t be fruitful Spiritually. John 15:5 says this plainly: “I am the vine, ye are the branches: He that abideth in me, and I in him, the same bringeth forth much fruit: for without me ye can do nothing”. Outside of God nothing of spiritual value can be accomplished.

Look at the fruits of the spirit and all that it entails. Love, the way that God loves.  Peace, Joy, Patience, loving kindness, faithful, gentleness, self-control, long suffering, chastity, and many others.  It is the totality of God’s character.  These qualities come from God’s Spirit. You have many people who pretend to be this way. Who pretend to possess these qualities. Until a leaked phone conversation, text message or an email comes out, and we see they were pretending the whole time.

When you walk in the Spirit, you will inherit these qualities, and it won’t be fake. If social media was around today, they could listen to every conversation Jesus ever had, and they would never catch him plotting to steal from anybody. Or planning an attack on someone; Or being caught bullying someone; or gossiping about someone’s misfortune; Or using foul language against someone and their family;  They would hear him warning people, praying for people, teaching people, and being patient with people.

Some people might say “that type of behavior and attitude is impossible for a person to live up to”.  Of course it is! The Bible says “no man is righteous, no not one” in Romans 3:11. Don’t confuse righteous with good. Society has messed with the translation and used those words interchangeably when they have different meanings.

There are some nice people in the world who are kind. They care about others. They live their lives honestly. They are charitable. They don’t get angry and argue or cuss people out. But even though that’s the case, they cannot be justified before God. Only Jesus can justify us and declare before God that we are righteous. We have sinned. Once you sin once you cannot be justified outside of Christ.

There is a penalty put upon every human being that sins. The wages of sin is death. God requires judgement for disobeying him. But he gives us the opportunity to repent and receive forgiveness. If God killed you when you sinned, and me, and everyone else as soon as they sinned, there would be no one left walking the Earth!

Jesus has come for that very purpose, because we were in a state where we couldn’t help ourselves but to be given over to sin. 

God told Man in the beginning to multiply and be fruitful.  Evil men bare evil fruit.   They’re fruitful in sinful deeds. You can be fruitful in the wrong things. The things the world consider fruitful, God considers to be fruitless. God’s command to be fruitful, means to be fruitful in the things he deems valuable.

Both Man and Woman, Husband and Wife, were given the command to be fruitful in the ways of the Lord. And the Woman was created to be Adam’s helpmeet. God has given every believer a responsibility. 

Today people get married for the benefits of having a companion, but rarely because they want to be fruitful in the ways of God. They are more concerned about how fruitful their natural lives will be Today many women desire a Man for a covering, but also possesses the desire to control the cover that has been placed over her. They have silly demands and lust filled expectations that are not founded in spiritual wisdom.

Their vision has become impaired, and they can only see what is temporary or what is foolish. Their desire is no longer to help a Man as God intended, but to control a Man and lead them both to disaster.  Any woman who seeks to control or rule over her Husband is wicked! Anyone who seeks the ways that go against God’s design of things is sin.

God has an established order and blueprint for his creation. When we deviate from that we create chaos. The Husband is under Christ, and is the head of his Wife, how be it then that a Wife can come in making demands to the head of their union and household? The Husband does not work for the Wife, the Husband works for God. The wife’s responsibility is to the Husband, not to her foolish desires.

They have become lustful in all their ways.  They would reject the Lord himself in the flesh and any man who walks carefully after his way. He was just a carpenter. He didn’t make a lot of money, but women who lust for money and worldly things would find his salary unacceptable. They’ll tell you they can do better then him. Better than someone like Jesus?  Yes.  Better then Jesus himself.  

They would rebuke Joseph that was pushed in the hole, but run to lay at the feet of this same Joseph who was put in charge of running Pharaoh’s household and financial affairs, because their desires lay have been shaped and sharpened by satan!

They wou, but because his lifestyle has changed. They no longer look at the Men they marry as their head, but they have reduced them down to their personal resource center.  If you marry a Man under the premise of what you can gain, and not what you can offer or give, then your motive is a self-centered one.

You hear many women say “I’m waiting for the right guy to come along”. That just means I’m waiting for the guy who can fulfill my carnal desires to come along and choose me for marriage.  I know women who meet Men who do not love the Lord, but expect these Men to attend Church services with them on Sundays, as if this is pleasing to the Lord.

Of course he’ll do it! He’s getting what he wants in exchange for it.  And she’s getting what she wants. You have established a relationship built upon manipulation and fornication.  A sexual relationship with a Man that she can parade around with on Sundays at Church.  Doesn’t matter that he doesn’t love the Lord. Neither does she, or she would not do such a thing.

Many of our women are failing before they even become wives. The bride is supposed to be “pure” when they marry their Husband. Most of them are not even pure.  Many Men do not get the benefit of a pure bride.  They’re not given their body to their Husbands as virgins. And they don’t even blink an eye at this failing.  There is no conviction or shame for such a thing.  The Church has normalized a groom receiving an unclean bride. 

That was one of the things that made a woman valuable. They are rapidly losing their value. They don’t pray for a Godly man in their hearts, it is with their mouth only, because their actions reveal what’s truly their hearts desire.. They crave the appearance of what is Godly on the outside only, but  inwardly seek what is worldly.

They don’t desire to be pure, but to only look the part of being pure. Isn’t that most people in the Church today?  They want to look Godly to everyone who can see, while practicing sins in the dark where no one can see.  Listen to what a woman says she wants in a Husband. She has a laundry list of things and none of them are spiritual.

This is coming from Christian women.  Do not read this and point to the world with a sigh of relief.  This is from within the Church that the blood of Christ has built.  They want to be equal with their Husband at least, if they cannot control him.  They seek these choices instead of the choice to serve him. We are equal in our creation, but not equal in our work. God made Men physically stronger for a reason. He made women physically weaker for a reason. The work that God has called each of them to do, requires one to be stronger then the other in certain areas.

God created Man to lead, that’s why he made him the head. He created women to help the Man, not to over rule the man or contend with the man or compete with the Man for control of who will lead. That is not her purpose. But sadly today, we see it more and more in marriage. There is nothing worse than an unruly wife. Trying to control an unruly wife, is like trying to place a tornado into a jar.

An unruly wife destroys everything she’s near including her own house and family.  A tornado does not distinguish between who and what it destroys in its path. Are you an unruly woman? If you are you will make for an unruly wife. Are you an unruly wife? If you are you will make for an unruly Mother.  

Are you a gossiper? Do you run and blab and complain about your Family to other people other than God? Do you submit to your Husband when he’s right as well as when he’s wrong? Do you try to control him and manipulate him in order to get your way? Do you abuse his kindness and his love for you?

Do you put him against his Family and his Parents? Do you take care of the children you borne for him? Being submissive to your Husband is not a choice if you’re a Christian. Your Husband being submissive to God is not a choice if he’s a follower of Christ.

Do you pray to God to help make you a better wife, Or do you only pray to God to change your Husband? That’s what we always think. “They’re the problem God.  It is not me.  They are the ones who need to change”. Being a Godly wife is about sacrifice, it is not about partnership. You’re not merging two companies together to create a bigger more powerful company.

That’s the problem with many wives and potential wives today. They seek power, and not sacrifice. That’s why Eve sinned. She wanted to be like God. All knowing. All wisdom. All powerful. That’s why Satan sinned. He wanted to be God. We see from the Garden of Eden that satan stirred up something in Eve that made the tree God told them not to eat of desirable.

It wasn’t the fruit that was hanging from it, it was what she believed the fruit could yield when she ate it. She wasn’t “tricked” in the sense of she did not know what she was doing, she was tricked in the sense that after eating from the tree, she did not become like God. But why the desire to become like God when she already had a Christ like covering over her which was Adam?

It comes down to self will. When satan came to her and tempted her, he awakened the desire of self-will that was inside of Eve. Then she went to Adam and tempted him and awakened in him that same desire.. Adam voluntarily acquiesced to the persuasions of Eve. The Apostle Paul says Adam was not tricked in 1 Timothy 2:14.

That’s why it’s so important to keep the order of God. This was a well planned strategic attack by satan. Don’t think that satan just decided one day to go down and deceive Eve. No. He doesn’t do anything without a purpose. He was watching them. He’s always watching.

Whatever your weakness is, that where he’s going to temp you. He waits a weakness or vulnerability is evident and then he goes after it. Adams’ weakness was Eve. Eve’s weakness was her lack of discernment. If her weakness was Adam then she would of listened to the words of Adam and not the words of a serpent.  

She was susceptible to voices outside of the voice of God’s and her Husband.  How many marriages have become undone because the woman has listened to the voice of serpents rather than to Gods commandments and the instruction of her Husband?

These women will listen to the words of an Author then to the words of their Husband. If you will not hear the words of your Husband who walks with Christ, you will not yield to God either.     God curses Eve in Genesis 3:16 saying: “Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you.“

The NLT translation translates the scripture as the following: “You will desire to control your husband, but he will rule over you.” So there is a nature in women to desire control over their Husbands. We see two extreme examples of this in the Bible. We see it with Jezebel, and we see it with King Herod’s wife Herodias.

Both of these examples led to the deaths of devout men. Women are not attracted to Men who have power because they want to be controlled by these Men, they are attracted to these Men who have power because they also want to possess that same power so that they can control others with it..

Job’s wife tried to take control of Job when Job was at his weakest. “Just curse God and die”, in Job 2:9.  She even acknowledges Job’s integrity in the scripture, but still insists that Job disregards it and curse God. But Job never conceded control. He rebuked her and called her foolish. How many women and wives do we have today that are foolish like Jobs wife?  

Evil like Ahab’s wife Jezebel. Eager to sin like Herodias. Too many. We have a lot of foolish wives in the Church who are supposed to be Godly wives. Who are supposed to be led by their Husbands. But they’re too busy trying to control and manipulate them. This type of behaviour is wicked before the Lord!

If you are not married but you are looking to get married, make sure you are not like these foolish women mentioned up top.  Make sure you are not like the many foolish women occupying the Church today.  A Godly woman is the opposite of foolish. She is a lamp in this dark world on how women are supposed to treat their Husbands.

The World has distorted the purpose and role of what a wife is supposed to be to her Husband. A Godly wife is supposed to Pray with her Husband and for her Husband, not become a force in the household. Do you know that God has ordered the Husband and Wife ahead of the children?

Not the children ahead of the Father and Mother. When you do not operate your marriage and your household according to the order of God, the only result that can ensue is chaos. Brothers and Sisters, our marriage vows are before God not the State. Nothing Holy and sacred can be under the authority of an unholy and unsacred institution. Satan is the authority of the State, and has the hearts of those who are in charge.

They approve of his yea’s and reject the things that he nay’s. God has allowed him control of this world, so he impacts it as he sees fit, with limitations on what he is allowed to afflict upon God’s people.

Whenever there is a divorce found amongst a married couple in the body of Christ, know that he is in the midst. So is it satans fault marriages are failing amongst Christians? No! He can only impact your marriage when given opportunity to. We make ourselves vulnerable to his attacks.

He is the tempter and the liar.  But his power has limits.  We must shut the door on his opportunities. When you don’t communicate you give way to an opportunity for him to create division. Communication is more than just “talking” to one another. It is understanding your spouse as well as being understood. Communication is a two-way exchange. When one person speaks, the other must acknowledge that what was spoken was understood. Successful communication always leads to “action” on both sides.

We must pay particular attention to the areas of our lives where our marriages are most vulnerable. We must pray and act by Faith. We can’t just “hope” and “pray”, with no action when there is something to be done.

Who amongst you desire a Husband that you can control? If you seek to control your Husband, then you don’t seek the will of God. If you cannot submit to a Husband who does not earn a lofty salary, or who does not possess some talent that very few people have, or who does not have many materialistic things, you show yourself unfit for a Godly Husband. Since your desires are for the things of this world, and not for the things of a Godly marriage is designed to produce.

Many women say “I want a partner in marriage”, yet they are not willing to be the kind of Wife that God has created for them to become. A woman who walks in God’s purpose is a virtuous woman, a woman who walks according to her own purposes that were giving to her by the father of this world, walks in opposition to God’s created design.

So what do you do with a chair that refuses to stand on four legs? We repair the leg that is broken. If two needs to be repaired, we repair the two that needs to be broken. If all four legs and the body of the chair needs to be repaired, then the entire chair needs to be torn down and rebuilt from scratch.

Many women in Church today are like these chairs. They have hobbled legs. They are not fit to sit in. They look the part of a chair that is good to sit in, but the person who buys it ends up with a pain in the rear and a sore back.

Who then does the Husband go to for relief if not his Wife? Who then does the Husband go to if not his helpmeet? Is this not what the purpose of a helpmeet is for? Our women have traded in their support gowns for career gloves. They have eaten from the fruit of the tree of knowledge that the World produces, and have left their natural purpose to become more like Men!

They have forsaken their nurturing ability and femininity for a competitive nature, driven by money, power, and prestige. They are now driven by the same lust as Men.  Becoming their competitors instead of their wives.  Possessing the same qualities and attributes that make Men different from Women. 

You cannot be a Godly Wife while being led by these things, as you have now become like the Man, and do the same functions as the Man. But the responsibilities of the Wife still goes unfulfilled, because we have two leaders in the home and no one to support.

From Genesis to today. This has become the dynamic in married households. Husbands are appointed leaders, and Wives attempts at mutiny against her Husband, to the detriment of her own Family. Am I saying that women are wicked? Only those that behave in this nature. Man that behaves against the will, order, and principles of God is wicked, which is worse than unlearned.

Why say Lord and God, I submit to your will, when you cannot submit to the Man God has placed you under? No, if you cannot submit to him, you would not submit to Jesus in the flesh either. You have allowed yourself to become deceived.

God desires a virtuous woman to be covered, but for a woman who is wanton, she is un-coverable by a Godly Man. She would destroy her own home like a nest of termites. The evil one has provided not only deception to this type of foolish woman, but also the incentive to burn down her own home.

While she divorces one man to move on to another, until her lustful desires run out.  There is no recourse or rebuke for such wicked behavior. They have been blinded by their pride and lust by their father, not knowing in these things they are preparing a room for themselves so that where he will ultimately be they will be also.

Show me a Godly woman and I’ll show you one who does not spend her days on social media and her nights gossiping with her friends. Show me a Godly woman and I’ll show you a woman who takes care of the needs of her Husband and Family, and in that order.

Show me a Godly woman and I’ll show you one who seeks a Man that seeks the heart of God, and not a Man who seeks the heart of the world. Show me a Godly woman and I’ll show you a woman who prays for her Husband more than she criticizes her Husband.

Show me a Godly woman and I’ll show you one who prays to God for her to become a better wife, more than she does for her spouse to become a better Husband.

Show me a Godly woman and I’ll show you one who delights in having a happy home, more than she delights in getting a job promotion.

Show me a Godly Wife and I’ll show you one who takes care of her temple, as it is the dwelling of the Holy Spirit and a gift to her Husband. We protect and take care of that which is most important to us. We give our best to those we love.  We do not give our worst.

Lest we sin like Cain did who’s offerings the Lord rejected, as Cain did not even deem them fit for him to keep!

Keep your eyes on your own household. Do not peak over your neighbors fence. What will you find there but jealousy and envy? And for what? Does God not provide what is best for his children?

I pray for the called and married in Christ. Satan has prepared and launched a full-blown attack. I see many Preachers pointing to BLM and homosexuality as being against the traditional family. While this statement in itself is true, do not become short sighted and fall into the trap of being stuck in the present.

Satan has been around longer than both these things. The world has been against marriage long before homosexuality became so prevalent in our society, and before BLM became a organization. It is not homosexuality or BLM that threatens marriage and family. It is sin. In all its forms.

I pray for those who are married in Christ. I pray that the men God called are ready to lead, and the woman God has placed under them are eager to submit. I pray that in these times God produces more Sarahs and Priscillas, and restore the family in Christ into the image that he designed it to be.

If this has been a blessing to you, Amen. I pray for you and your Family and all your loved ones to stay safe. And continue to grow in Christ. God Bless.